We are coming out of one of the most difficult years our world has seen in quite some time.
All of the uncertainty and change has created a state of unrest and massive fear.
And this will be the PERFECT time to start thinking “I am going to change XYZ starting January 1”!
Yep, that New Year’s Resolution.
But let me ask you, what happened on January 1, 2020?
What “resolution” did you make?
How did it work out for you?
I bet it didn’t and I bet you are saying “It didn’t work for 2020 because of XYZ (pandemic, election, etc.) but 2021 is MY YEAR!”
Immediately, you looked at something outside of you to blame.
But did you actually change what was going on on the INSIDE?
I have never been one for “resolutions”.
They rank up there with “diets” and I believe setting you up right away for failure because of the stigma just around the words themselves.
Generally, people make resolutions like “I am going to lose 50 lbs”, or “I am going to eat healthily”, or “I am going to work out every day”.
And then, January 1 hits, and you are off and running, pushing yourself toward the idea of what you think you want, and then by mid-February, give up because you are so overwhelmed with the sudden changes that you don’t believe you will ever make it.
This same process occurs when we try to make other lifestyle changes and pool them into the “resolutions” category.
So now, let’s look at the definition of “resolution”. It means “a firm decision to do or not to do something”.
That’s it.
When we make resolutions, we have every intention of doing whatever it is, but we don’t have a plan.
We don’t usually have systems set up to help us succeed so, we quit and inevitably, fail.
There is also an “all or nothing” attachment to whatever that something is.
Intention, on the other hand, is “a thing intended; an aim or plan” and a goal is “the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result” and goal setting “involves the development of an action plan designed to motivate and guide a person or group toward a goal”.
Intention and goal setting go hand in hand. It is the expansion of a resolution because we actually can take action by implementing small steps that are mapped out in a plan.
And because the plan involves steps, you need to be specific.
So, instead of making a resolution of “I am going to lose weight”, make an intention of “I am going to lose 20 pounds this year and I am going to get there by taking these steps….” and actually WRITE out your plan, break it down into daily manageable steps.
As you accomplish each step, you check it off the list and receive instant gratification and a feeling of accomplishment. Then you do the same thing the next day.
Now, take it one step further.
Think about how you want to FEEL if you accomplish this goal.
THAT is the true magic behind the success. We aren’t seeking the outcome, we are seeking how we want to FEEL about the outcome. How do you feel when you are 20 pounds lighter?
Do you feel healthier, happier, more comfortable in your body?
Do you feel sexy and confident?
That is what you are really after!
Lastly, if you fall down, and you will, brush yourself off and try again.
There is no “all or nothing” when you are working toward a goal.
When you fall, reflect on what happened to make you fall.
What can you do differently the next time?
This is all part of the journey. And this is where you will grow.
You will be able to set intentions and make a plan to get you there.
Notice I did not say “fail”.
To fail means to “be unsuccessful in achieving one’s goal”.
If you are constantly working, falling, getting back up, and starting again, this is not failing in my eyes.
As long as you don’t give up, you won’t fail.
I challenge you to sit down and look at the things in your life you want to achieve.
Weightloss, conquering your debt, or any behavior you would like to change.
Pick the top, most important item on that list and decide how you are going to get there.
Map out your plan, set your intentions, and start!
Actually, LIST out each step and if you will need help, where will you find that help.
Don’t try and do more than one step at a time.
Once you have completed or mastered the first step, then move to the second step and so on until your goal is reached.
Then, move on to the next thing you want to accomplish on your list, rinse, and repeat.
Taking it one step at a time means progress so don’t try and overwhelm yourself trying to do it all at once.
Any lasting changes, behaviors, and habits you are trying to accomplish take time and practice.
This is a marathon, not a sprint.
This is a time of awareness and self-discovery.
This is a time of success, celebrating each small victory along the way.
This is how you create lasting results.
If you are ready to go deeper and ready to go into 2021 with an ACTION PLAN and doing the INSIDE work to make lasting change, I have the perfect program for you.
My 6-Week Mindset Detox program is here for you.
A small group of ladies coming together to inspire and support each other while doing a MASSIVE mindset detox.
We will be tackling all of the things that are taking up space in your life that need to be purged so that there is space for new, wonderful things to come in.
We will also be tackling all of those fears that impede progress as well as how to eliminate self-sabotage and procrastination by creating lasting, positive habits.
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