Today I am going to answer the question, what is mindset detox?
But before I do, I want to share with you why it’s necessary and share with you a little about my story.
I was 5 when my parents divorced and this one event changed the course of my life in ways a child of 5 could even imagine.
It caused a series of events to transpire that no child should have ever had to experience.
My life became a statistic.
I fell victim to poverty, neglect, physical and emotional abuse, and addiction.
This, in turn, contributed to a very toxic and destructive mindset.
I had abandonment issues.
I had trust issues, both in myself and of others.
I never thought that I was good enough.
I never thought that I could be successful because I didn’t receive the encouragement I needed.
I grew up long before I should have.
I was co-dependent.
I was an enabler.
I became the caretaker of my younger brother AND my mother.
All before the age of 13.
As an adult, I suffered from anxiety, depression, control issues, self-destructive behaviors, and more.
I had ZERO confidence.
I was so afraid of everything, especially what others thought of me and my situation.
This rolled into every relationship I had.
I didn’t have the framework of a healthy relationship, so my behaviors stayed the same.
And I kept reliving the same traumas I had experienced as a child within those relationships.
I felt stuck in a life that I knew was no longer mine.
It affected every aspect of what I was trying to accomplish:
Healthy relationships.
Job/career growth.
Business growth.
Why???
Because I didn’t have the awareness of what needed to change and kept falling back on the same habits, thought patterns, and behaviors, and this went on for YEARS!
One thing that DIDN’T happen…I didn’t adopt my mother’s victim mindset so I had that going for me.
I fought, and I fought hard and I believe that this was the driving force behind where I am today and why I am so passionate about helping others on their journey.
But I didn’t step into my power until much later.
It was actually in my late 30’s (I am now 47) when I started to TRULY find that power.
Yes, I was a victim.
But that was not my identity.
I knew deep down inside that I needed to make changes…but how?
This is where mindset detox comes in.
Detox is “a process or period of time in which one abstains from or rids the body of toxic or unhealthy substances; detoxification.”
Mindset detox is literally that:
Detoxing those thought patterns, habits, and behaviors.
But to do that, there needs to be AWARENESS of what those things are.
During the detox, you take a good look at what those habits are that are keeping you where you are and no longer serving you.
You can examine your beliefs and actually change those beliefs to align with who you are TODAY.
Also encompassed in all of that is learning to change your perspective based on your past experiences so that those past experiences actually contribute in a positive manner to your mindset.
Your perspective is how you see the world based on those past experiences and mindset is what you THINK about what you see.
Once you identify where the change needs to happen and actually take action to make the changes, you start to eliminate the self-sabotage the always seems to creap in and derail your efforts.
You gain the courage and confidence within yourself and realize that what other people think of you doesn’t matter because you are in your truth and aligned with who you are.
You get to rewrite that story!
So you now you understand what is being detoxed, I will share with you how you actually start to create this awareness.
You can do some journaling around some questions to find that awareness.
Ask yourself:
What is it that needs to change?
Why do I need to make this change?
What feeling am I after in making this change?
What steps do I need to take to get there?
Am I willing to get uncomfortable in order to make these changes?
I have to tell you that with change comes discomfort but that is where the growth happens!
Now, look at your habits and behaviors:
What do you currently do when things are difficult?
When did you adopt these habits and behaviors?
What triggers these habits and behaviors?
What self-talk do you engage in? In other words, what story are you telling yourself?
Next, create a plan:
What habit or behavior do you WANT to adopt to replace those that no longer serve you?
What story do you want to tell and is it in alignment with who you say you are?
You see, you don’t have to stay stuck. You have a choice to make a change.
The question is, are you ready?
This is what mindset detox is all about.
Creating the awareness of what needs to change, making the changes, and rewriting your story so that you are in alignment with who you say you are.
And this is where LASTING change happens.
This isn’t a quick, temporary fix for the pain you are feeling now.
This is work and it’s a journey of self-awareness and stepping into your power.
You are an amazing, beautiful soul who deserves everything you desire in this life and I want that for you!
Want to go deeper into the detox?
I can help you!
This month in my Women Taking Action for Change private community, I will be talking about all things Mindset Detox! Click here to join!
