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February 19, 2020February 19, 2020

Shift Your Mindset and Let Go of Beliefs

Are you struggling with something in your life that is holding you back from moving forward? Do you want to change something about your life but just don’t know how?

Check your thoughts.

Are you stuck in a loop of negative self-talk and beliefs that no longer serve you? Do you have big dreams but “something,” tells you that you can’t ever achieve them because you aren’t worthy, you don’t have the experience, you don’t have the money…etc.?

How’s your mindset?

Mindset plays into everything we do or want to do in life. Here is why…Every ACTION is because of a FEELING and every FEELING is because of a THOUGHT you are thinking.

Let me repeat that. Every ACTION is because of a FEELING and every FEELING is because of a THOUGHT you are thinking.

It’s important to watch our thoughts because they:

Can send us down a rabbit hole
Can send us into the darkest realm of our mind
Can cause us anxiety
Can cause us to respond to things in a not so nice manner

What we put out to the universe, we get back because THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS! That’s right, manifestation right here. Negative attracts negative, positive attracts positive. Don’t believe me? Reflect on a “bad day”. It all starts when you miss your alarm and it all spirals from there. Chances are you, you are thinking “OMG! Can this day be over already? I just can’t win?” And more bad things keep happening. Now, reflect on a day when your mind was vibrating in a positive light and something goes wrong. You probably shrugged it off and said “It’s ok, I will get through it. It’s just something that happens” and you move on. This time, there is no bad stuff happening because you stopped it in its tracks. I originally discussed this specific example in a prior post Having A Bad Day?

So, what can you do to shift your mindset? First, it starts with awareness. Without awareness of what is, it is next to impossible to identify where the change needs to happen.

Finding awareness includes looking at your beliefs. A belief is an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists. It can also be referred to as an agreement. Something that was presented to you and you agreed to it or accepted it.

Your subconscious is fueled by your beliefs. Your subconscious mind actually creates your reality. Remember, thoughts become things. This has been proven with Quantum Physics. If you have a negative belief about something, then that negative belief will manifest through your subconscious and become your reality.

So how do we go about impregnating our subconscious with the thoughts and images that you WANT because THAT is what will show up in the physical reality of what is called YOUR LIFE?

Your subconscious mind is READY to receive when your conscious mind is not active. So right before you wake up or right before you fall asleep, that’s when you want to upload or install into your subconscious mind. Our subconscious just records what we put in and then plays back out into our life. So anything you DON’T want that may have been recorded, say when you were a child, is just in there playing back on a loop and hasn’t been taken out and replaced with a new belief.

The next step in shifting your mindset is recognizing your achievements. List out ALL of your achievements, yes, even those little wins because no matter how little, they still brought you that feeling of WINNING!

Next comes gratitude. Having a daily gratitude practice is probably the most important contributor to changing your mindset. Gratitude does not have to just be about the big things in your life. Actually, you should recognize all of the little things throughout your day because it keeps you in heightened awareness and resonating at a higher level within the Universe, which helps fuel the Law of Attraction. (Are you seeing a theme here?)

Now it’s time to talk about affirmations and mantras. I am going to tell you a secret…these only work if you BELIEVE them. Just saying them with zero emotion or feeling attached to them and “going through the motions” is an absolute waste of time. You may as well not even bother. BUT…if you are seeking a FEELING and can tie an affirmation or mantra to it…THAT is gold and when the magic starts to happen and the beliefs that no longer serve you will be replaced.

Finally, changing your mindset will not happen overnight. It takes consistency and practice every single moment of the day. It takes work but the result is so worth it!

I challenge you to sit down and examine your thoughts and beliefs. Make a list of those that no longer serve you and start the process of letting them go. It takes courage to look within ourselves and make a decision to change. Just remember, if you want something, you have to work for it and this is no different. I believe in you.

This is just the tip of the iceberg. If you would like to dig deeper, click here to schedule a free 30-minute breakthrough call with me and let’s get started.

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October 6, 2019October 6, 2019

Manifesting Your Desires

Have you ever wanted something so badly, but could never make it a reality? Have you wanted to improve your quality of life but can’t seem to get there? Do you give up on yourself because you seem to try and try, but can’t get it done? You are not alone. Many people struggle every day with creating the life they desire. And then there are those who are “lucky” and seem to be able to achieve everything they go after. What the heck is the big secret?

Well, there are a few things going on for these “lucky” folk. First and foremost, it is desire. The desire is so great, that they don’t let anything or anyone get in the way of what they want. Second, these people can envision already having whatever it is they desire. Once they make the decision, they immediately switch to the mindset of “I am” or “I have”. Lastly, they come from a place of “abundance” or already having everything they need.

So let’s talk desire for a moment. How BAD do want whatever it is? Does it consume your thoughts? Are your loved ones tired of hearing you talk about it? Are you daydreaming about how you feel, as though you already have it? My guess is, no. Or else you would have it! But did you catch that? Did you catch the key to the desire? If not, that’s ok. Ima tell ya!

It’s FEELING! That’s right, there are certain feelings that go hand in hand with our desires. When you think about something you want, how are you feeling about it? Are you thinking “there is no way I can have it so I may as well give up”? If so, how does that resonate within your body? Tension, stress, sadness, anger? Or do you think “I am so frickin’ excited that I have this and am going somewhere”? How do you feel now? Happiness, joy, excitement?

Our subconscious already knows that it can be a reality and as you may or may not know, those tapes from our past play over and over and our egos take over to decide what the outcome will be. You have to put that ego in check and let your subconscious go to work! Have you heard the term “thoughts become things”? This is the key to the next part. Visualizing that you already have whatever it is you desire. If you allow your ego to paint the picture, it will continually paint everything you DON’T want. This is a defense mechanism to keep you “safe” and protected from change and growth. When you let your subconscious take the lead, all of a sudden you are elated and daydreaming and feeling all of your desires coming to life. It is almost impossible to think of this in any other way other than the present tense. It has ALREADY HAPPENED because it has. You just need to open up and get ready to receive it. Now, when you think or talk about your desires, use the language “I am” and “I have”.

Now let’s talk about this thing called abundance. Coming from a place of lack is the demise to you not achieving everything you desire. When you are 100% focused on things you DON’T have, the less you WILL have. Again, it’s that Law of Attraction thing! Instead of the thought process “That costs too much money and I will never be able to afford that” or “I am always poor and will never have enough money”, turn it around. Create a different thought process around money. “I have everything I need and money flows to me freely” or “I am in abundance and only attracting more”.

When we change our thoughts, we change everything about our state of being. Thoughts become things so if you are constantly in negative thought mode, only negative will come to you. My husband is very skilled as one of the “lucky” ones. When he makes a decision that he wants something, he immediately starts visualizing that he already has it. He starts making plans. He talks about it as if it is already in his possession. He doesn’t focus on how much it costs and how much more he needs to “save” or acquire to make it happen. It has already happened and he is in the mode of being fully open and receiving. Some of our friends and family are baffled by his “luck”, but as you can see, it’s not luck at all. It’s how we think about things.

I challenge you to give it a whirl. Sure, it takes practice. I practice every day, but it’s possible to make it happen. I would love to hear about your experiences so reach out and let me know how it’s going! And remember, I believe in you!

September 23, 2019September 23, 2019

Gratitude: A Powerful Appreciation

When we are very young, we are taught manners. We are taught to say please and thank you. As we get older, the thank you portion of what we were taught starts to take on stronger meaning and feelings around it. As adults, we often say “thank you. I appreciate it.” Again, a stronger message with stronger feelings behind it. An even stronger aspect of this fine manner is gratitude. What is gratitude exactly? According to Merriam-Webster, gratitude is the state of being grateful: THANKFULNESS.

In my world, gratitude is the ultimate in appreciation. It’s not just saying “thank you”. It is all about your energy and feeling around what you are grateful for. Gratitude can and should be expressed regularly for all things. People, places, things, etc. Gratitude affirmations are my favorite. “I am grateful for this life. I am grateful for this beautiful day. I am grateful for my family. I am grateful for my coffee!”. The key is to FEEL grateful too. Don’t just say the words (although there is something to be said for “faking it until you make it”). The FEELING behind the words is where all the magic begins. The words alone trigger our brains to cease all thoughts and get present real quick. The FEELING is what is resonated out through God and the Universe. This causes you to be at the highest frequency for receiving.

Living in a state of gratitude also does something magnificent. It puts you in a present state of positivity resonating at your highest level. What in the world does that mean? Well, let’s break it down. A “present state of positivity” means now. Not the past, not the future. NOW. Why is that so magnificent? Because it is impossible for our brain to succumb to any other thoughts other than what we are currently showing gratitude for. Now, “resonating at your highest level” magnifies positive emotions. WHAT??? It’s really quite simple. It’s the Law of Attraction. The positive emotion that you are emitting through gratitude will attract more positive emotion to you. You get what you give. Are you looking for a path to happiness? This is it!

I always tell my clients that you can test this theory (and you WILL be tested). Let your ego run. Let your brain start thinking about the past, about the future. FEEL how your body feels. Are you experiencing anxiety and depression? Are you experiencing dread and fear? Now, turn it around. Find just one thing you are grateful for. Make sure that you are picking something that truly makes you feel joy. Do you love sunrises and sunsets? Go enjoy one and say out loud “I am so grateful for the beautiful sky and loving the calmness I feel.” Are you struggling with your job and having negative thoughts about it? “I am grateful for this job and the money I earn that provides the things I need.” This gratitude practice will immediately stop any negative self-talk or feelings you are experiencing and get you into the present right now! It will also feel good when you are saying them, and who doesn’t want to feel good?

Showing gratitude will also attract things to you that you desire. The key is to use the same “I am” format and attach how you would feel as if it has already happened. Here is my example: “I am grateful that I am a successful Life Coach helping hundreds of people create their desired life. I feel thrilled knowing that I am making a difference!”

So, I challenge you right now to find ten things you can be grateful for. Do this every day! Do this in the morning and do this at night before bed. Say them out loud. Write them down. Feel them every time you practice and watch how things unfold. If you have questions about any of this, please feel free to contact me! I would love to chat about how your gratitude practice is going.