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June 10, 2020June 10, 2020

Turning Dreams into Goals

We all have dreams right?

To have a lasting, loving relationship.

To start a business.

To have a satisfying career.

To have absolute health and wellness.

To be wealthy.

To own a home.

To own your dream car.

These are some dreams that many of us have.

So what exactly is a dream?

I personally love this definition: a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.

But, let’s take a little bit deeper.

When we talk about a dream, there is an underlying feeling attached to that dream.

Usually, it is a feeling we are trying to achieve.

Feelings of stability, freedom, and accomplishment are all feelings that are the most common when we talk about dreams.

Now let’s talk about goals.

A goal is a person’s ambition or effort, an aim or desired result.

Another way to say this is a goal is a dream in ACTION.

So now think about a dream you have.

Is this dream something that you can turn into a goal?

Can you create an action plan of steps to start making this dream a reality?

What would it take to get you there?

I know when I had this dream of being my own boss and being able to help others, I had no idea what it would look like.

I started to ruminate on all of the possibilities of what I could do professionally that would get me to where I wanted to be.

All the time, I was always “coaching” people in their relationships, careers, and life in general, but I didn’t know that being a coach was an actual thing I could do.

I looked into becoming a teacher, a therapist, a guidance counselor, and even looked into various HR type positions.

All of these were definitely doable but I was not prepared to take on any more student loans to get the education I needed.

So I kept searching.

Finally, the idea of being a coach hit me like a ton of bricks so I started investigating.

I looked at what would be required and found that certification was not required so I wouldn’t have to invest a ton of money upfront before I could get started.

So I went to work on my action plan.

The very first thing on my list: hire my own coach so that I could experience it from the other side and also work on my own shit in the process.

From there I listed out the rest of what I needed to just get started.

It was a simple list of things that were cost-effective and attainable actions I could take.

They were small, attainable goals so that I could keep from feeling overwhelmed.

I committed to 2 hours per day to work toward my main goal.

By the end of my coaching package, I had made the decision that I was going to LAUNCH and I did exactly that just a few short months later.

I was officially operating my very own coaching practice!

Was it perfect?

NO!

And it still isn’t.

Because I am still learning and working toward my goals which means things change, including ME.

You see, a dream is just a dream.

Hoping and wishing it to happen is not going to make it happen.

The ONLY way to make your dream your reality is to take ACTION.

And, you can have ANYTHING you desire.

Does it take work?

Sure it does!

But here is the secret:

Decide now what it is that you want to do, commit to yourself and that goal, and show up and do the work to get there.

You are worth every bit of it!

So now, I want to give you some tips on how to set goals and actually achieve them!

So you have this dream, right?

And you are ready to take action to achieve it, but where do you start?

First, start brainstorming. If you are wanting to start a business, brainstorm all of the things that you like or love to do.

Then research what of those things can you actually make money doing? Find people in that industry. Connect with a community that can support you and can provide some guidance.

The next thing you need to do is list out the things that are REQUIRED for you to get started and the things that can wait. You need to focus on the required items first. Again, this will take some research.

Reach out to your community to gain some insight.

Now, these items sometimes have sub-categories or tasks that need to happen in order to complete said item on your list. This is where I pick ONE of the required items and break out each sub-task and then SCHEDULE IT into my calendar. Try not to do more than 3 per day and ONLY focus on these items. This will keep you focused and moving forward one step at a time.

The more you time block, the more you have control over your progress and success of completion. Pretty soon, you will notice that your results of completion have elevated you to a feeling of accomplishment and success!

So let me ask you, now that I have simplified the process, do you think you can get started moving forward turning your dreams into goals?

If you need support in your efforts, let me know! I would love to talk to you more about where you are and where you want to be! I am currently looking to help ladies new to the entrepreneur arena. If this is you and you are ready to launch and grow, book a free 30-minute call with me here: http://bit.ly/TiffenysBreakthroughCall

May 20, 2020June 15, 2020

Why Now Is The Time To Start

I hope you are all not only surviving, but I hope you are THRIVING during this time.

I personally, at the time of this post, have successfully completed 7 solid weeks of not stepping off of my property during this COVID-19 pandemic.

I started working from home for my job and then transitioned to a furloughed status where I have been working on a new program for my coaching practice and working with clients.

Now, our stay-at-home order has turned into a safer-at-home order that is designed to be a slow transition to a “new normal”.

What does that mean and what does that have to do with our topic today?

Well, as we all know, things have not been normal for the past couple of months. I have talked at length about creating a new normal.

Why?

Because that new normal will become your normal. Guys, we are not going back to the way we were. Not for a long time, if ever!

If you are holding onto that idea, you need to get past it quickly because it will not be the same.

Companies are going to HAVE to offer more work from home options.

More and more people are going to be looking for ways to work from home now more than ever.

So why not you?

Have you thought about starting your own business?

Do you have your own business already but want to increase sales, exposure, and offerings?

NOW is the time.

I know that there is a mixed opinion about this.

Some say that now is NOT the time to start a business because the economy is so unstable and people are not in a growth mindset so failure is imminent.

I don’t agree with this. Especially if you are in or want to be in the service industry, like coaching.

First of all, people need our help and are going to need our help even more as we start to discover what the new normal is.

For those of you that already have a business, how can you pivot so that you can continue to serve and move forward?

So think about what it is that you want to do.

If this is resonating with you, raise your hand!

And above all else, NOW is the time to change your mindset and help others change theirs.

I can personally attest to having to pivot and adjust my mindset to our current, new normal.

When I started my practice, I was geared up to work with women strictly 1 on 1 working on mindset and goals, along with removing blocks, emotional pain, and fears that have been holding them back.

Now, I am using the group format for my coaching so that I can reach the masses.

Recently, I have launched a Mindset Group and now, I am launching a Mastermind Group for women who are ready to take their new-found courage to launch or grow their businesses.

I am also looking at other ways to serve via online courses, workshops, podcast interviews, etc.

Although not all of these things pay me in hard cash, I feel that I receive payment by giving back and helping others.

It also ensures that I stay visible so that when women like you need help, I am the one you call.

Remember, it takes time to get things going and that is why NOW is a perfect time.

Why?

Because we have time NOW.

Because we don’t know what tomorrow will bring.

If I have learned anything through this uncertain time is that waiting is NOT an option!

I may fail, but I will grow and get up and try again.

I also learned that if I suck, I will only get better!

So, I am spending TONS of time while I am home participating in free online training and writing content for my programs.

What are YOU doing with your time?

Are YOU ready to make a difference?

Are you needing help to PIVOT so that your business continues to grow?

Don’t wait until we are past this.

Get that training.

Set up that website.

Do that online course.

Get the research done on what you need to be successful.

Write out those ideas about how you can enhance your offerings.

And TAKE ACTION!

What are you waiting for????

I am here to help!

My 90 Day Action for Change: Courage to Launch Mastermind went live Wednesday, April 29th.

If you are considering starting a business or need help taking your business to the next level, book a call with me, and let’s talk about where you are so that you can get to where you want to be!

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April 1, 2020April 1, 2020

Surviving a World of Uncertainty

The world is CRAZY right now! Many of you are thinking “How in the heck am I supposed to keep a positive mindset when I don’t even know if I am going to have food to put on the table right now?”

The key IS your mindset.

I am always saying thoughts become things.

Your THOUGHTS create feelings and your FEELINGS create your ACTION.

So think about the toilet paper situation-yes, the toilet paper. It’s what is happening right now and it’s a good metaphor to see how this all transpires.

When someone starts to think “what happens if the world shuts down and I run out of toilet paper?” That thought then creates a feeling of fear and lack. So, in response to that feeling, said person decides to take action and runs to the store to buy as much toilet paper as he or she can to ensure that he or she will not run out, thinking this will dissipate the fear.

Did the fear go away? No!

Because it isn’t about the toilet paper at all. It’s about how the person is thinking about what is going on.

How could this have been different?

By reframing the original thought.

Now, I want you to know that I am not looking at this situation through rose-colored glasses and not believing this is a real pandemic. Quite the contrary.

I am fully aware of the severity of the situation. I am being affected by what is going on around me directly.

I have elderly, not well parents that could be literally taken out if they caught this virus.

My Tai Chi center closed until further notice so that we can participate in the social distancing.

We have a friend that stayed with us a couple or weekends ago and was not aware that his mother, who lives with him, has not been feeling well the past few weeks. Her doc asked her to come in and there was a good chance she may have needed to be tested.

Which meant our friend would have had to be tested and in turn, if that test came back positive, we would have had to be tested.

Good news, Mom only had one of the symptoms and actually had a sinus infection causing her to feel yucky.

A couple of weeks ago, I was laid off from my job. Fortunately, I called back and a week later, was told that we were all going to start working from home because of the state mandated Stay at Home order.

Everything is still uncertain for me as to if I will have a job tomorrow.

Does any of these scenarios cause fear within me? A little, sure.

However, the difference with how I am CHOOSING to respond is how I look at the situation. My thoughts around what is going on may be quite different than yours. I am NOT living in a state of fear and allowing it to consume me.

Am I concerned about our medical system? Am I concerned about my future and how I am going to come out of all of this, especially since I just launched two program offerings RIGHT BEFORE this all went down?

Sure I am! But it is NOT dictating my life.

I am carrying on, business as usual, with even more passion, vigor, and drive. I know this is all temporary. We will come out of this.

And, I look at this as an opportunity. An opportunity to educate, create awareness, and hope that I can make a difference in someone else’s outlook, which is life-changing.

I am the beacon of light in a dark situation. I know this. This is my gift and what better time to burn the light even brighter?

I went live last Sunday in my private Facebook group, from my bed (because it was self-care day) and again Monday morning and talked about the state of fear we, as a society, are operating in and how we can survive the state of uncertainty. I also posted about gratitude and how gratitude is the antidote to fear.

I practice gratitude every. Single. Day. All. Day.

It is the number one way to stay resonating at my highest power and combat fear or any other feelings of uncertainty.

In addition to gratitude, here are 4 things that you can do to make this time a bit more bearable:

Move your body-exercise is the number one top thing you can do to mitigate depression and anxiety. It releases all of the feel-goods that we need in our bodies to maintain a healthy outlook, not to mention it makes us physically feel good.

Talk about your feelings-holding in is never good no matter the situation. My husband and I talk every night about the things that transpired during the day and discuss how we feel about it and what our next steps will be.

Be hyper-aware of what you are consuming from the media and eliminate that which does not serve you. The media is not necessarily your friend. Don’t take their updates as truth. Question everything. The news is here to instill the fear so that you stay glued to the TV which increases ratings. That’s all. Do your research. Stay educated but not through the news or what people post on social media.

Only focus on what you can control. You can’t control what is going on “out there”. You CAN control how you respond. You CAN control if you wash your hands or keep the social distance. You CAN control if you are bombarding your thoughts with fear-based information.

So, check-in and see how you are responding to what is going on around you. If you are stuck in a state of fear, choose to get out!

Start implementing gratitude and the 4 recommendations and start to thrive in this horrible situation.

As always, you can contact me anytime. I am here for you. If you would like to get a bit deeper with this topic and are considering hiring a coach, contact me! Here is the direct link to my calendar. I offer FREE 30-minute breakthrough calls to see where you and how to get you to where you want to be. Just click Here-http://bit.ly/TiffenysBreakthroughCall

February 24, 2020February 24, 2020

Are You Excited About Your Life?

Today we are going to talk about YOUR life and check-in to see if you are excited about the life you are creating and if you are not, then what needs to happen to make the shift?

I say “creating” because every new day is a blank canvass. You are the artist and the creator of your own life. Nobody else can take that from you. If you don’t have it, it’s because you CHOSE to give it away. Notice I said CHOSE. You had to have made a DECISION to let someone else have control of your life. And NOW is the time to take ACTION and get your power back!

Do you have big dreams?

Most dreams don’t become reality because we miss the most important step. Having an action plan! Action is the only way to turn a dream into a goal. You have to first MAKE A DECISION. Make a decision to pursue that goal or procrastinate. Either way, you made a decision.

Second, you need to COMMIT. Commit to the dream. Commit to the goal. Commit to the people in your life who are going to be with you on this journey. And commit to YOURSELF!

Third, SHOW UP, DO THE WORK, AND WATCH EVERYTHING YOU WANT SHOW UP!

So, what is it that you want to do? What is your #1 dream right now?

Write it down!

Is your dream a big one?

Does it make you a little scared to think about it?

Are you constantly thinking about it or fantasizing about it?

What are your beliefs around it? Both positive and negative.

You may have beliefs that are holding you back because those beliefs are not your truth. Check-in with yourself here and reflect on your self-talk. Reflect on everything you were told growing up. Now is the time to get rid of any belief that no longer serves you.

Do you think you are worthy?

The majority of the women I work with say worthiness is a big obstacle for them. They feel that they are not worthy of their dreams or are not educated enough to even take the step into action. So they don’t.

I am here to tell you that YOU ARE WORTHY! You are totally worthy and deserving of EXTREME wealth, joy, and romance! (Feel free to steal this affirmation because it covers all of the bases, and, it’s a good one!)

Do you think it is attainable?

You will never know unless you try. You must have a belief in yourself!

Be careful with this one. Your EGO is going to have a ton of input because your ego will tell you to be afraid and that no, it will never be attainable. Here’s why…your ego does not want change. Your ego wants you to stay right where you are, comfortable. Comfortable in your sadness. Comfortable in your self-pity. Comfortable in your current situation, whatever it is.

What steps are you taking to get there?

I encourage you to design your life as if it has already happened. Literally write out every detail and feel the excitement brewing. Sit quietly for a while and just envision that life. Every. Single. Detail.

Now, how do you feel in that life?

Write it down. Write down everything you want. Write out the details. Write out your feelings. Good AND bad.

I say bad because you may even have some negative emotions come up in the process. Some negative self-talk. Remember your friend the Ego? Your ego self telling you it’s not worth it because it will be too hard.

That’s ok.

Sit with these emotions. Give recognition to them. This awareness is going to give you tons of feedback as to why you aren’t already living this life.

The best part of this is creating that awareness because now you know where the work needs to happen to get there!

Do you want to dive deeper and discover where you want to be and how to take action to get there? Book your free 30-Minute breakthrough call today! http://bit.ly/TiffenysBreakthroughCall

February 19, 2020February 19, 2020

Shift Your Mindset and Let Go of Beliefs

Are you struggling with something in your life that is holding you back from moving forward? Do you want to change something about your life but just don’t know how?

Check your thoughts.

Are you stuck in a loop of negative self-talk and beliefs that no longer serve you? Do you have big dreams but “something,” tells you that you can’t ever achieve them because you aren’t worthy, you don’t have the experience, you don’t have the money…etc.?

How’s your mindset?

Mindset plays into everything we do or want to do in life. Here is why…Every ACTION is because of a FEELING and every FEELING is because of a THOUGHT you are thinking.

Let me repeat that. Every ACTION is because of a FEELING and every FEELING is because of a THOUGHT you are thinking.

It’s important to watch our thoughts because they:

Can send us down a rabbit hole
Can send us into the darkest realm of our mind
Can cause us anxiety
Can cause us to respond to things in a not so nice manner

What we put out to the universe, we get back because THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS! That’s right, manifestation right here. Negative attracts negative, positive attracts positive. Don’t believe me? Reflect on a “bad day”. It all starts when you miss your alarm and it all spirals from there. Chances are you, you are thinking “OMG! Can this day be over already? I just can’t win?” And more bad things keep happening. Now, reflect on a day when your mind was vibrating in a positive light and something goes wrong. You probably shrugged it off and said “It’s ok, I will get through it. It’s just something that happens” and you move on. This time, there is no bad stuff happening because you stopped it in its tracks. I originally discussed this specific example in a prior post Having A Bad Day?

So, what can you do to shift your mindset? First, it starts with awareness. Without awareness of what is, it is next to impossible to identify where the change needs to happen.

Finding awareness includes looking at your beliefs. A belief is an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists. It can also be referred to as an agreement. Something that was presented to you and you agreed to it or accepted it.

Your subconscious is fueled by your beliefs. Your subconscious mind actually creates your reality. Remember, thoughts become things. This has been proven with Quantum Physics. If you have a negative belief about something, then that negative belief will manifest through your subconscious and become your reality.

So how do we go about impregnating our subconscious with the thoughts and images that you WANT because THAT is what will show up in the physical reality of what is called YOUR LIFE?

Your subconscious mind is READY to receive when your conscious mind is not active. So right before you wake up or right before you fall asleep, that’s when you want to upload or install into your subconscious mind. Our subconscious just records what we put in and then plays back out into our life. So anything you DON’T want that may have been recorded, say when you were a child, is just in there playing back on a loop and hasn’t been taken out and replaced with a new belief.

The next step in shifting your mindset is recognizing your achievements. List out ALL of your achievements, yes, even those little wins because no matter how little, they still brought you that feeling of WINNING!

Next comes gratitude. Having a daily gratitude practice is probably the most important contributor to changing your mindset. Gratitude does not have to just be about the big things in your life. Actually, you should recognize all of the little things throughout your day because it keeps you in heightened awareness and resonating at a higher level within the Universe, which helps fuel the Law of Attraction. (Are you seeing a theme here?)

Now it’s time to talk about affirmations and mantras. I am going to tell you a secret…these only work if you BELIEVE them. Just saying them with zero emotion or feeling attached to them and “going through the motions” is an absolute waste of time. You may as well not even bother. BUT…if you are seeking a FEELING and can tie an affirmation or mantra to it…THAT is gold and when the magic starts to happen and the beliefs that no longer serve you will be replaced.

Finally, changing your mindset will not happen overnight. It takes consistency and practice every single moment of the day. It takes work but the result is so worth it!

I challenge you to sit down and examine your thoughts and beliefs. Make a list of those that no longer serve you and start the process of letting them go. It takes courage to look within ourselves and make a decision to change. Just remember, if you want something, you have to work for it and this is no different. I believe in you.

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